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NCI says hope can remain possible even without remission. It suggests setting goals to look forward to each day, and says hopeful thinking may give a sense of purpose. NCI also describes common feelings in advanced cancer, such as sadness, fear, anger and guilt.
NCI says hope can remain possible even without remission.
Setting goals to look forward to each day is one approach NCI describes.
NCI says hopeful thinking may give you a sense of purpose.
Anger often sits on top of fear, frustration and helplessness.
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This page is for people living with advanced cancer, and those close to them. It covers how hope can shift rather than disappear, the feelings that often come along, and where to find support.
Hope does not have to mean cure
People often assume that when a cancer becomes advanced, hope is the first thing that has to be handed back. The National Cancer Institute's (NCI's) guidance takes a different line. NCI says hope remains possible even without remission. It suggests setting goals to look forward to each day. It also says hopeful thinking may give you a sense of purpose.
NCI also says you do not have to be upbeat all the time or pretend to be cheerful. Hope and sadness can sit side by side.
What people aim at instead
The practical suggestions in NCI's guidance are small in scale:
- Setting goals to look forward to each day.
- Focusing on relationships that matter to you.
- Staying with the present moment and goals you can reach.
A day with a specific intention in it feels different from a day spent waiting. The intention does not have to be impressive — a phone call to a particular person, an hour outside, a meal someone actually wants to eat.
The feelings that arrive alongside
NCI's guidance for people with advanced cancer covers a set of feelings and treats each as ordinary rather than as a failure of attitude.
Sadness and depression. NCI calls these natural. It advises seeking professional support if symptoms last beyond two weeks.
Grief. NCI says there is no right or wrong way to grieve. It encourages connecting with trusted people or a mental health professional.
Fear and worry. NCI lists fears about pain, money, becoming dependent on others, and dying. It suggests asking your health care team questions to learn more about your cancer and care options.
Anger. NCI says anger often hides deeper feelings such as helplessness, and that it is not healthy to keep it inside. It suggests talking with loved ones or a counselor.
Guilt and regret. Here NCI is unusually direct. NCI's framing is that the treatment failed you, and you did not fail the treatment.
Loneliness. NCI says loneliness can grow as social contact drops. It suggests support groups and saying plainly that you want connection.
Say what you actually need
NCI suggests saying plainly that you want connection. The people around you may be guessing what you need. Telling one person what would help can make that easier. This is our suggestion, not an NCI finding.
Where support comes from
The routes NCI points to are straightforward:
- Speaking with your health care team or a mental health professional.
- Support groups, which NCI suggests for loneliness.
- Focusing on meaningful relationships and present moments.
Asking for a referral to a counselor is not a sign that coping has failed. It is one of the options NCI lists.
Hope and honesty can share a room
Many people fear that saying a hard thing out loud will end hope. NCI's guidance says hope stays possible even without remission, and that you do not have to pretend to be cheerful.
If you are in crisis or thinking of harming yourself, call or text 988 (the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline) in the US, or call 911 for an emergency.
Common questions
Is hoping for a cure unrealistic if my cancer is advanced?
NCI says hope remains possible even without remission, and suggests setting goals to look forward to each day. It does not tell people what to hope for.
I feel guilty that treatment did not work.
NCI addresses this directly, describing self-blame as counterproductive and saying the treatment failed you, and you did not fail the treatment.
When does sadness become something to treat?
NCI says sadness and depression are natural, and that professional support is advised if symptoms last beyond two weeks. Ask your care team or a mental health professional.
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