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Knowing what to expect in the final days can help families feel more prepared and less anxious. People often eat and drink less, sleep more, and go through natural physical changes. Comfort, gentle presence, and honoring the person's wishes matter most during this time.
Knowing what to expect in the final days or hours can help comfort the family.
People often lose the desire to eat or drink, and food should not be forced.
People near death may sleep more and respond less, but most can still hear.
A number of physical changes are common, though they do not happen to everyone.
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Why knowing what to expect can help
The end of life may be months, weeks, days, or hours. It is a time when many decisions about care are made. It helps for families and health care providers to talk openly with the person about their wishes ahead of time, which makes major decisions easier later.
Most people do not know the signs that show death is near. Knowing what to expect can help family members get ready and make this time less stressful and confusing. Health care providers can give families information about the changes they may see and how they can help their loved one through this. This article is for gentle education only, and your care team is always your best guide.
Eating and drinking often decrease
In the final days to hours of life, people often lose the desire to eat or drink. They may not want food and fluids that are offered to them. This is a natural part of the body slowing down.
The family may give ice chips or gently swab the mouth and lips to keep them moist. Food and fluids should not be forced on the person, because it can cause discomfort or choking.
More rest, and quieter responses
People near death may withdraw and spend more time sleeping. They may answer questions slowly or not at all, seem confused, and show less interest in what is going on around them.
Here is something comforting to know: most people are still able to hear after they are no longer able to speak. It may give some comfort, both to your loved one and to you, if family members continue to gently touch and talk to the person, even if they do not respond.
Physical changes that are common
Certain physical changes may occur in a person at the end of life:
- They may feel tired or weak.
- They may pass less urine, and it may be dark in color.
- Their hands and feet may become blotchy, cool, or bluish. Blankets can help keep the person warm, but electric blankets or heating pads should not be used.
- Their heart rate may go up or down and become irregular.
- Blood pressure usually goes down.
- Breathing may become irregular, with very shallow breaths, short pauses, or deep, rapid breathing.
These signs do not always occur in everyone. For this reason, it can be hard to know exactly when a person is near death.
Comfort remains the focus
Common symptoms in the last days can include feeling very tired, shortness of breath, pain, and restlessness or confusion (called delirium). The good news is that there are treatments that work well to relieve these symptoms.
Pain during the final hours of life can usually be controlled, and medicines can be given in several ways. If breathing becomes difficult, there are methods that can help the person breathe more easily. The main goal of care during this time is to keep the person comfortable and at peace.
Honoring what matters at the time of death
After a person dies, family members and caregivers may wish to stay with them a while. There may be certain customs or rituals that are important to the person and family, such as ways of coping with death, caring for the body, or honoring the person's life.
It is important to let the health care team know what customs or rituals matter to you and your family. Health care providers, hospice staff, social workers, or spiritual leaders can also explain the steps that need to be taken once death has occurred, including contacting a funeral home. You do not have to know all of this on your own, and support is there for you.
When to get help sooner
- Call your hospice or care team right away if your loved one appears to be in pain, is struggling to breathe, or becomes restless and cannot be settled. These symptoms respond well to treatment, and there is no reason to wait for morning.
- Call your care team the same day if they can no longer swallow the medicines they need. There are other ways to give them, and this can be arranged quickly.
- Ask today, before you need it, who answers the phone overnight. Having that number written down is much easier than searching for it at three in the morning.
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Why is it helpful to know what to expect near the end of life?
Most people do not know the signs that death is near. Knowing what to expect can help family members get ready and make the time less stressful and confusing. Health care providers can explain the changes families may see and how to help their loved one.
Is it normal to stop eating and drinking?
Yes. In the final days to hours, people often lose the desire to eat or drink and may not want food or fluids offered to them. Families may give ice chips or swab the mouth and lips to keep them moist. Food and fluids should not be forced, as this can cause discomfort or choking.
Can the person still hear us?
Often, yes. People near death may withdraw, sleep more, and answer slowly or not at all. But most people are still able to hear after they can no longer speak. It may bring comfort if family members continue to gently touch and talk to the person.
What physical changes are common near death?
A person may feel tired or weak, pass less and darker urine, have hands and feet that become cool or blotchy, have an irregular heart rate, lower blood pressure, and irregular breathing. These signs do not always occur in everyone, so it can be hard to know exactly when death is near.
Can symptoms like pain be controlled at the very end?
Yes. Common symptoms in the last days can include pain, shortness of breath, and restlessness, and there are treatments that work well to relieve them. Pain during the final hours of life can usually be controlled. The main goal of care is comfort.
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