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Sexual Health & Intimacy During and After Cancer Treatment
Cancer treatment changes sex. Most people find this out on their own, in private, and assume they are the only one. They are not.
The American Cancer Society is direct about the scope: cancer and its treatments "can affect every part of your sexuality, including your: Sex organs, Sexual desire (sex drive or libido), Sexual function and well-being, Body image." That is a wide net, and it means the problem is rarely only one thing.
Why Desire Drops
Low desire during treatment usually has several causes stacked together.
Hormones. The National Cancer Institute notes that chemotherapy and hormone therapy can lower estrogen in women and testosterone in men. It states plainly that chemotherapy "may lower your testosterone levels and libido during the treatment period," and that hormone therapy "can lower testosterone levels and decrease a man's sexual drive."
Everything else treatment does to you. NCI lists fatigue, pain, hair loss, and sadness as things that affect desire. ACS adds nausea, bowel or bladder problems, skin problems, and changes in appearance. Medicines matter too — NCI names opioids and antidepressants as drugs that may "lower your interest in sex."
Treating the fatigue, the pain, or the depression is often the most effective thing you can do for desire. It is not a detour from the sexual problem.
Arousal and Physical Function
For women, the main physical changes are vaginal dryness, thinning and narrowing of vaginal tissue, and pain with penetration. NCI notes chemotherapy can cause "vaginal dryness, which can make sexual intercourse difficult or painful," and that pelvic radiation causes vaginal stenosis and atrophy. Our separate article on dryness and vaginal pain covers lubricants, moisturizers, vaginal estrogen, and dilators in detail.
For men, the main change is difficulty getting or keeping an erection. NCI says pelvic radiation carries the greatest risk, that pelvic surgery and hormone therapy carry similar risks, and — usefully — that "chemotherapy does not usually affect your ability to have an erection." Radiation damage to the prostate can also cause "a dry orgasm," meaning orgasm without ejaculation. Our article on erectile dysfunction after prostate cancer treatment goes through the treatment options.
Fertility Is a Before-Treatment Decision
This one is time-sensitive in a way the rest is not. NCI states: "If having a biological child one day may be important to you, consider talking with your doctor and a fertility specialist before starting cancer treatment."
Chemotherapy (especially alkylating agents), radiation to the pelvis or central nervous system, hormone therapy, stem cell transplant, and surgery on reproductive organs can all reduce or end fertility. NCI notes that sperm banking is "the most common fertility preservation method for males who have gone through puberty," and lists egg freezing, embryo freezing, ovarian tissue freezing, ovarian transposition, ovarian shielding, and radical trachelectomy as options for women. Survivors who consult a fertility specialist report less regret afterward.
Can You Have Sex During Treatment?
Usually yes. NCI says most women and most men can be sexually active during treatment, but tells you to confirm it with your doctor. There are times when you may be advised to abstain — specifically when you are at increased risk of infection or bleeding.
Two other precautions come from NCI directly. Condoms may be recommended to prevent your partner's exposure to some types of chemotherapy that can remain in semen or vaginal secretions. And contraception may be advised to prevent pregnancy during treatment and for a period of time afterward.
Body Image
Surgery for gynecologic cancers, mastectomy, and ostomy surgery may change how you see your body. NCI says your health care team should talk with you about what to expect and teach you how to adjust after surgery. ACS notes a partner may also worry about how to express love physically after treatment — which is not rejection, though it can feel like it.
Talking About It
With a partner. ACS suggests picking "a low-stress, unrushed time to talk," letting your partner know what gives you pleasure and what reduces discomfort, and remembering that "sexual intimacy involves more than intercourse."
With your team. ACS is blunt: "Don't assume your doctor or nurse will ask you about sex or intimacy problems. You might have to start the conversation." It offers a script if you need one: "I was reading about (surgery/treatment) and that it might cause sexual problems. Can you explain that to me?"
NCI suggests asking what sexual problems are common with this treatment, when changes might occur, how long they might last, whether any will be permanent, how they can be prevented or managed, and what specialists you should talk with. Teams can refer you to a sex educator, counselor, or therapist.
Where the Evidence Is Thin
These sources describe what happens and what to try, but they do not give recovery rates, timelines for desire returning, or head-to-head comparisons of treatments for sexual problems after cancer. Anyone quoting a firm percentage should be able to show you the study.
Sources
- American Cancer Society: Cancer, Sex, and Intimacy. https://www.cancer.org/cancer/managing-cancer/side-effects/sexual-side-effects/how-cancer-affects-sexuality.html
- National Cancer Institute: Sexual Health Issues in Women and Cancer Treatment. https://www.cancer.gov/about-cancer/treatment/side-effects/sexuality-women
- National Cancer Institute: Sexual Health Issues in Men and Cancer Treatment. https://www.cancer.gov/about-cancer/treatment/side-effects/sexuality-men
- National Cancer Institute: Fertility Issues in Girls and Women with Cancer. https://www.cancer.gov/about-cancer/treatment/side-effects/fertility-women
- National Cancer Institute: Fertility Issues in Boys and Men with Cancer. https://www.cancer.gov/about-cancer/treatment/side-effects/fertility-men
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