Is it selfish for a caregiver to take a break?

No. Taking care of yourself is not selfish; it is an important part of caregiving.

When you care for a loved one with advanced cancer, it is easy to feel so busy and concerned that you do not pay attention to your own needs. But it is important to take care of yourself and keep up your strength. Getting help for yourself will also help your loved one, as well as other friends and family.

One way to get a break is respite care, in which a provider, family member, or friend spends time with your loved one so you can rest, see friends, or run errands. Many caregivers say they wish they had gotten respite care sooner. Ask your health care team for suggestions on finding respite care in your area, and remember it is good to remind others that you still need help.