How do I balance caregiving with my job?

Balancing caregiving with job responsibilities is a common challenge, and if you're finding it hard, that's not a sign you're failing — it's simply a lot to manage at once.

One of the most effective things you can do is ask others for help rather than trying to handle everything yourself. Many caregivers wish they had asked sooner. People in your life can help with chores like cooking, cleaning, or yard work, take care of kids or handle school pickup, drive your loved one to appointments or pick up medicines, or serve as the contact person who keeps others updated so you don't have to repeat the same news over and over.

Be prepared that not everyone you ask will be able to help — some people are dealing with their own problems, lack the time, feel afraid of cancer, or simply don't realize you need help unless you ask directly. If one person says no, it's worth asking someone else or being specific about what would help most.

It also helps to keep up your own personal routine where you can, and to find some outlet for the stress, whether that's a support group or talking with a counselor. There's no perfectly balanced way to do this — the goal is enough support to keep going.